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HW: 225lbs - CW: 214.2lbs - UGW: 140lbs - Total Lost: 10.8lbs
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Loving someone with depression is a lot of work. They’re suffering and obviously you want to help them out of the hole. Depression is generally linked with low self-esteem and hence some severely depressed people have limited motivation to help themselves, since they don’t think they’re worth it.
And, obviously, we want to help the people we care about.
And that’s part of the problem: the act of giving people that attention and love can just as easily motivate someone to wallow exactly because it gets them so much wonderful attention and love.
Worse still: person with low self-esteem is given love and support by partner; person feels unworthy of said love because of aforementioned low self-esteem; person then throws said love and support back in partner’s face, thereby confirming unworthiness, because what sort of person would be so unkind? An unworthy one is what. And boom: the circular argument is complete.
And make no mistake, there’s a sneaking contempt in there of the form “I clearly suck, so if you love me you’re some sort of idiot and therefore not worthy of my respect.” This is one way that people use their depression against their partner – and it’s an insidious trick, because the victim feels guilty for accusing the abuser of their abuse.
Thus depression creates victims that are not themselves depressed, and it’s as much a challenge for the person suffering to moderate their own behaviour – to seek help, to actively fight their condition – as it is for those trying to support to know when they need to get out for their own sanity and happiness.
Now, let me be clear: this isn’t about blaming people with depression. Depression is a nightmare: the pit, the darkness, the black dog. What it’s definitely not, however, is some sort of mystical Get Out Of Jail Free card for cruel behaviour.
GUYS I NEED YOU NOW: IF SCHOOL HAS EVER MADE YOU DEPRESSED/IS A FACTOR IN YOUR DEPRESSION OR ANXIETY OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT PLEASE REBLOG THIS FOR MY SCHOOL PROJECT THAT’S DUE FRIDAY THANK YOU
It has taken me a while to figure out what I wanted to do. I tried working at a daycare center. I tried working as a nursing assistant. I am now currently a nanny. Through all of these different jobs I have narrowed down what I would like to do. I would ideally like to be a stay at home mom but I don’t know how realistic that is. After “figuring” out what I liked I was able to determine what direction to go. I can’t even count how many times I changed my mind!!! I have close to 100credit hours of math/science/engineering classes which helped me nowhere! I have searched and searched and searched through countless programs to see how I could transfer as many credits as possible without wasting my time and my money I originally put in to chemical engineering. I found an online program through a school which specifically works with students who have previous college credits but are completing a different degree. My best advice for you is to do what you love. For me, I new that if I continued with chemical engineering that I would be really really unhappy with myself. The program ended up choosing is a bachelors degree in Human Resources and Organizational Leadership. I still don’t know what exactly I want to do but I know that this degree will allow me to do most everything I have interests in. If you are interested in health and nutrition you should pursue it. What is an extra year in the grand scheme of things? See if you can find a school or program that allows you to utilize the credits you have already earned and still be able to pursue something in health and nutrition. Let me know if you have more questions :-)